Updated: Jan 2
"Change is the end result of all true learning." ― Leo Buscaglia
Happy New Year!
Every year I choose a word to set an intention for my year. Last year my word was ALLOW. I wanted to allow more in ALL areas of my life. I've grown so much this past year, and my word served me well.
➞ I allowed myself to connect with my DESIRES fully and truly.
➞ I allowed myself to HAVE more and expand in all areas of my life.
➞ I allowed myself to fully RECEIVE all the abundance in my life.
➞ I allowed more work, and I allowed more REST.
➞ I allowed myself to be MESSY and imperfect.
➞ I allowed myself to be more VULNERABLE.
➞ I allowed BOUNDARIES and saying no more.
➞ I allowed LOVE, abundance, health, flow, and honesty in my life.
➞ I allowed sadness, pain, and ANGER to show itself.
➞ I allowed the whole range of ME and my emotions.
➞ I allowed WHAT IS.
Now all of this was not easy, and I'm still working on it one choice at a time.
I learned a lot in 2019, and I still have room to grow.
I'M GOING TO SHARE WITH YOU THE TOP 5 THINGS I LEARNED IN 2019.
1. I learned it's more than ok to be messy.
Being a naturally positive person on top of a life coach and yoga teacher, I felt I had to show up shiny for the people in my life. I've learned to share the message or meaning in my mess, and sharing from my darkness was a breakthrough for me. It has connected me to so many women, and I show up more authentic because I'm showing up as me in that moment without waiting for the so-called perfect version of me.
This year I've laughed a lot and celebrated myself - and I've cried, screamed, been scared, anxious, and insecure. I am accepting all these parts and not shoving anything down to look good on the outside. Show your vulnerability and imperfection and give permission to the people in your life to do the same.
“There’s no need to be perfect to inspire others. Let people get inspired by how you deal with your imperfections.” ― Anonymous
2. I learned I can have fun and feel good without sugar, caffeine, and alcohol.
I made some significant changes in my life 22 years ago when I went through a huge health shift and a big weight loss journey. Since then, I've been vegetarian and half that time vegan. And for the last ten years, I have not had gluten (except for those times it slipped in accidentally and let me tell you I paid for it). I say all of this because sugary gluten-free, vegan baked goods and glasses of wine with dinner seemed ok, right? And my matcha pick-me-ups couldn't hurt. Well, I cut it all out, and it's made a huge difference in how I feel. Would I still be fun at parties? Would I have the same energy without my tea every day?
Well, I've been off of it for four months, and I have never felt better! I have energy, no fog, my intuition is spot on, and I don't have highs and lows throughout the day. I'm also more present, my sleep is better, and I've never felt healthier! If you would have told me I'd be doing this six months ago - I would have called you crazy! Is there something in your life you could give up to improve it?
It is health that is real wealth and not pieces of gold and silver. ― Mahatma Gandhi
3. I learned to make sleep a priority.
I committed to getting good quality sleep and what a difference it has made! I drink my sleepy time tea, take a hot shower, get to bed at a reasonable hour, and make sure I have my eye mask. It's been a game-changer, and when I don't get proper sleep, I'm so murky the whole next day. I still need to improve in this area since sometimes I'll stay up late to finish a project, and that comes down to time management — something I need to work on it 2020! If you haven't committed to getting quality sleep each night - I'd try it and see how the quality of your life improves.
“Happiness consists of getting enough sleep. Just that, nothing more.” — Robert A. Heinlein
4. I learned to expand my havingness level.
I touched on this earlier when I wrote about my word ALLOW and how it has served me this year. When I say 'havingness' I mean our capacity to have, and in particular to stay open and receive abundance in all kinds of way. This one is also a work in progress for me - and the expansion is real. I am letting myself have more in all areas of my life, and I'm becoming a magnet for all my desires.
It's a powerful process, and I think everyone should do this! Raise your ceiling and start in small ways - if it's uncomfortable, just let yourself imagine it at first. Think about what it would feel like to allow yourself to have more in the different areas of your life. You can journal about it - and don't forget to act on it!
"When we have high self-worth the choices we make reflect this and therefore it's easy to expand and grow from a place of stability." — Laura Brown
5. I learned I can't force clarity.
If you know me at all, you know I talk about the importance of getting clear about our desires and vision so we can move towards our dreams in small ways by the simple choices we make each day. What if you aren't clear? And don't have a distinct vision? What if you don't know what you're passionate about or what your purpose is? I know it can feel overwhelming to think about these things - especially when the answers aren't coming.
I've learned that following my curiosities and desires each day is enough. I've learned that taking action on these things will lead me to clarity and to not give up on it. It means getting quiet (meditation, yoga, journaling, nature), so I can hear the whispers of my soul. I've learned that listening to the whispers of my heart doesn't always make sense. And if the call is there, I have to trust it. Through taking action every day based on my curiosities, desires, and urges - is how I have gained massive clarity in my life. And you will too! Sometimes it's immediate, and sometimes it takes time. You just can't force it.
“Your mind knows only somethings. Your inner voice, your instinct, knows everything. If you listen to what you know instinctively, it will always lead you down the right path.” — Henry Winkler
It's January 1st as I write this, and I don't have my word for 2020 yet. I plan to go through my Choose Your Word Mini-Course and choose soon. It's still open for a few more days if you want guidance in choosing your WORD for 2020. Sign up now!